Seeing the glass half empty or half full simply refers to how you view a situation.
Two people can have a totally different viewpoint on the same situation.
Choosing to be optimistic or hopeful and choosing to be pessimistic or negative is always and I mean always a matter of choice.
So is your glass half full or is your glass half empty?
A friend of mine was recently laid off of work. Rather than be depressed and negative, she decided to focus on the positive and to be optimistic.
She really didn’t like her job but she had been so busy that she hadn’t invested time in finding a new one.
Now that she has been laid off, she has time to invest in finding a new job and she no longer has to spend 40 hours a week at a job she hates!
Research has found that a negative outlook can contribute to everything from depression to heart disease to lowered immune system function.
Negative thinking can even affect your sleep habits, cause you to lose or gain weight, affect the quality of your relationships, your social life and even your ability to think clearly. Positive thinking is good for your health!
Are you ready to start seeing your glass as half full?
While some people are naturally more optimistic than others, ultimately we can all wake up every day and choose whether we are going to be a glass half-full, or a glass half-empty person.
Below are 4 strategies so you can flip the switch and become a glass half full person.
1. REFRAME A PROBLEM INTO AN OPPORTUNITY
Where pessimists see problems, optimists see opportunities. To quote Einstein: “Problems cannot be solved at the same level of thinking at which they were created.”
By reframing a problem you allow yourself to approach it from a different perspective. In the example I gave about my friend being laid off, she clearly reframed a problem into an opportunity. Instead of focusing on not having a job, she choose to look at the situation from a different perspective.
She choose to focus on now being free to find a job that will use her skills and talents. A job that will give her purpose. A job that she can be passionate about.
Now she can direct all of her energy towards finding this job rather than remaining in a job that left her unfulfilled. My friend is seeing her glass as half full!
If you change the way you look at your problems, your problems change into opportunities to grow and learn.
2. AVOID NEGATIVE PEOPLE
Optimism is contagious. So too is pessimism. If you are struggling to feel more positive and to see the glass half full, don’t spend time hanging out with “Debbie Downer.”
Debbie Downer is someone who is always complaining and talking about everything that is wrong with the world and the people in it.
Choose your company wisely and limit the time you spend with people who don’t fill your cup with optimism.
3. GO COMPLAINT-FREE
This is a hard one for most people including myself. We can always find something to complain about. It could be the person in front of us driving to slow or the cashier taking too long to ring up our groceries. But just as easily as we can find something to complain about, we can find something to be grateful for. Complaining is bad a habit, and it does nothing but drag your down. When you go complaint free, you begin to attract positive energy. You attract what you give your attention to.
Focus your attention on the negative by complaining and you attract more things to complain about. Focus your attention on the positive and things to be grateful; you will attract more of the same. Try going an hour without complaining and see the positive things in your life. Next, try a day, a week and so on.
4. FOCUS ON WHAT YOU WANT
Thinking about what you don’t want does not define what you do want. When you focus on things you don’t want it causes negative feels and leads you to see the glass half empty. You can’t be positive and optimistic if you’re thinking I will never get out of debt, I will never lose weight; I will never find my ideal mate.
Focusing on what you want and not what you don’t want takes practice. The more you do it, the easier it gets. The payoff – a happier, healthier life. It’s absolutely worth the effort.
The fact is, optimism creates opportunity and pessimism kills it.
You can choose to make your life difficult by seeing the glass half empty or you can choose to have a positive attitude by seeing the glass half full.
My challenge to you is to try at least one of these and notice the difference it makes to your outlook and your life. Please try one of these strategies today and let me know how it helps. Because as an optimist, I KNOW it will!
Your Success Coach,